A resource for your circle
The circle
thermometer.
Two minutes at the close of each session. It is answered from the phone and it is anonymous: nobody — not even the guide — knows who answered what.
It is there for one thing only: noticing in time when the circle is cooling down, while it can still be turned around.
For the guide · create your circle’s thermometer
You do it only once, at the start of the circle’s year. It gives you the link for the women, the QR code to stick in the booklet and your results link.
What it asks
Five, from 1 to 5
How deep the conversation went · whether I felt safe to say what I came with · whether the agreements were kept · whether the guide held the space without occupying it · whether I would come back next session.
Two yes-or-no
Did I bring my sheet, filled in thoughtfully? · Did I say something I had never said before?
And one open question
One thing I would change about today’s session. It is optional.
What it does not ask
What you are leaving with. That is yours, and it is said out loud in the Exit, or not at all. The thermometer measures how the circle is, not how you are.
The two yes-or-no questions say the most. A sheet filled in thoughtfully is what makes What weighs on us work, and today nobody finds out until it is too late. And having said something you had never said before measures real depth: a circle where nobody marks yes has been merely polite for months.
Truly anonymous
What is kept is the answers, the circle code and the day. Nothing else: not your name, not your email, not where you answer from, not the time. The time is left out on purpose: it could give away whoever answered last.
The guide sees a session only when at least three answered: with fewer, someone could work out who said what. What is written in the open question reaches her as written, in random order. That is why it is best not to put anything there that identifies you.