A resource for your circle
The
door.
52 questions to open a conversation about money. Press the button and one comes up at random.
The door is the name of the third block of a circle session: the question the group walks through to get into the subject. These are its questions.
Nobody has to answer all of them, and nobody has to tell everything. Each woman answers what she wants.
Use them to open a meeting, to fill a silence, or for when the circle wants to talk about money and cannot find a way in.
52 questions · seven themes
Our money story
- Who taught you your first lessons about money, and what did you learn from them?
- What did you hear grown-ups say about money when you were a girl?
- Is there a belief about money that you feel still holds you back?
- If you could hand your ten-years-ago self one lesson about money, what would it be?
- When in your life did you start taking your own money seriously?
- What is your earliest memory involving money? Do you think it still shapes you?
Spending, treats and enjoyment
- What can you buy today without guilt that used to be really hard for you?
- What do you spend on happily, because for you it is worth every cent?
- What small expense gives you a wildly disproportionate amount of happiness?
- If tomorrow someone gave you $500 just for you, and you could not save it or invest it, what would you spend it on?
- What have you bought lately that still makes you think, "that was a great buy"?
- Is there something you spend more on than most people, with no regrets?
- What expense did you cut or shrink and then realize you did not miss at all?
- Which emotion shows up most often when you spend money?
- Do you feel the way you spend your money reflects what actually matters to you? Why?
Order, chaos and the real numbers
- Which part of your financial life feels most in order, and which one is quietly chaotic?
- Which money matter is largely settled for you today that worried you five years ago?
- If your financial life had a drawer labeled "I will deal with this later", what would be in it?
- What money to-do have you been saying "I will do it this week" about for far too long?
- From 1 to 10, how at ease do you feel about your money today, and what would it take to move up one point?
- Which part of handling money comes naturally to you?
- Which part of your finances do you wish took up less headspace?
- What makes you want to save?
Decisions, independence and control
- What is a money decision that made you especially proud of yourself?
- Do you remember the first time you thought, "this money is mine and I decide what to do with it"?
- Which money decision would you make differently today than you would have ten years ago?
- What did you learn to do with your money that you once thought "was not for you"?
- What does being financially independent mean to you?
- If you could make one money worry disappear from your head, which one would it be?
- If you did not have to work for a living, what would you do with your time?
Money and the people around us
- Who is it easiest for you to talk about money with, and why?
- Which money conversation is hardest for you: with your partner, your children, your parents, your friends, or at work?
- Which is harder for you: asking for financial help, or setting a financial limit?
- Have you ever felt pressure to spend so you would not look bad in front of other people?
- Have you ever bought something to impress someone, to please them, or to live up to other people’s expectations?
- Are you someone who lends money easily, or someone who would rather say no?
- What do you spend on other people that gives you real joy?
- Which money conversation do you think we women should be having more often among friends?
- Is there a money decision you still feel you have to justify to other people?
Me, money and what comes next
- If your relationship with money had a WhatsApp status today, what would it say?
- If you had to describe your relationship with money in five words, what would they be?
- What would you like to be able to say about your financial life five years from now?
- What do you want money to let you do more of at this stage of your life?
- What matters to you financially today that was not even on your radar ten years ago?
- What does "having enough" mean to you at this point in your life?
- Which money habit of the woman you want to become are you still building?
- Finish the sentence: "If I had more money, I could…"
Work, income and worth
- What was your first job, and what did it teach you about money?
- Do you feel you earn what the work you do is worth? Why?
- What have you learned about asking for a raise, negotiating your salary, or pricing your own work?
- If you needed to bring in extra money, which of your skills, knowledge or resources could you turn into income?
- What do you value most about your work besides the money?